The ‘DUH!’ Moment

Stirring My Tea…

A recent ‘duh!' moment for me was as follows…I was making a cup of tea with a tea bag. It’s one of those with a string and tag attached. As I poured the water in, so the bag swirled around and the tag got pulled in.

A small thing, but annoying.

It happened for a long time. Every time I made myself a cup of tea, this kept happening to me, and I kept trying to find new ways of pouring the water in without disturbing the bag. Sometimes, I was successful. Sometimes I wasn’t.

Then, I had an epiphany! A moment of pure joy.  A ‘Duh!’ moment. I realized I was right-handed! That’s all it took to change my tea-making for ever. Once I realized that, I also realized that I couldn’t hold the tag easily if I draped it over the right side of the mug. But I could if I draped it over the left. Then, I could still pour the water AND I could hold the tag! Being right-handed, I naturally draped the tag over the right side.

Yes. I know. You would have spotted that long ago. Just like you would have spotted the fact that we hand-washed the coffee carafe for months because it wouldn’t fit into the dishwasher. Duh! But the dishwasher rack has two sides. The only side we tried it on was higher. The other side, the one we didn’t try for months, was easily big enough to fit it.


The ‘Duh!’ moments are what count. They are the moments when, all of a sudden, you see something in a new way. Or you suddenly realize that you CAN do something you thought was impossible.

Just as in dowsing, you can suddenly realize that you can dowse in a new way, or ask a question you never thought you could. Duh! In that moment, your world changes, even if only in just a small way.

But you will never get that moment of enlightenment and awakening and realization if you never keep your mind open to going ‘Duh!’.

Be prepared to be surprised!

Have you ever had a ‘Duh!' moment in your dowsing? What was it? Please share your experience with others in the comments section below

A Good Dowsing Question Is A Precious Thing!

Questions And Answers

“You don't see yet, Genry, why we perfected and practice Foretelling?”
“To exhibit the perfect uselessness of knowing the answer to the wrong question.”
The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula K. Le Guin

A lot of time is spent in dowsing classes on asking a good dowsing question. Because your answer is only as good as your question.

Learning how to ask a good dowsing question is complex. It's part art and part science. It's about learning to listen to your intuition while also tapping into your rational mind. In fact, there is so much to know about that subject, you could probably create a two-day workshop on it.

To save you the trouble of searching for a two-day workshop on making a good dowsing question, we've written a book on it instead, full of questions for you and your dowsing.

Dowsing accuracy and confidence go hand in hand. And getting ‘wrong' answers can erode your confidence. Can you remember when you first started dowsing (or maybe you're new, and this is something you've experienced) and you were so excited about using dowsing? And you rushed off and started dowsing about this and that, and it was so much fun to be getting yes and no answers to questions you could never have known the answer to?

But then you started finding out that some of your answers weren't right. And each time you got a ‘wrong' answer, you felt worse. You doubted your dowsing. You doubted your talent. And it almost seemed that doubt led to more mistakes. Has this happened to you?

A good dowsing question is something you grow into

Honestly, when you are learning anything, there is a learning curve. You make mistakes. You make course corrections. Like learning to skate or play piano. You don't expect to be perfect immediately. But somehow, with dowsing, people get discouraged if they make mistakes. They start thinking maybe they can't dowse. Or worse yet, they think maybe dowsing is fake and doesn't work.

Technique and practice are so important in mastering any skill. Dowsing is a skill. You can master it. But you need to know proper technique, and you must practice (unless you're the Mozart of dowsing :)).

Take the time to make a good dowsing question

Taking the time to make a good dowsing question and learning all the factors that go into it can seem boring or tedious. You may be so eager to get dowsing, that you want to skip that stuff. But don't. Take the time to learn how to ask a good dowsing question. Then your answers will be much more accurate. That will cause you to have confidence. And that leads you to enjoy using dowsing more and more.

In the posts on this site, there are often suggestions about asking a good dowsing question. So wander around the site and feel free to add a comment on them. You're welcome to join the forums as well!

For now, I'll just start by saying the first step in asking a good dowsing question is to get a pen and paper and make a list about what your are asking about. Why are you asking this? Why do you want to know? What do you want to know? List the factors how, when, who, where, what and why about your subject.

A good dowsing question is usually long. Writing your question down, at least at first, is helpful. That way, you don't have to focus on remembering it when you dowse. You read it a few times, then focus on getting into a dowsing state and ask, “What's the answer to this question?”

Then write your answer down. It's best if you can confirm the truth of the answer, as that helps you learn.

Don't assume your dowsing was ‘wrong' if the answer appears wrong. Take time to try and see why that could have been the correct answer to YOUR question. In other words, how was the question weak or incomplete, causing that to be a correct answer to that question? That way, you can improve next time.

What has been your experience about getting a good dowsing question right? What went right (or wrong)? Share your story in the comments section below

The 5 Biggest Dowsing Mistakes

Do You Make These Dowsing Mistakes?

What are the 5 biggest dowsing mistakes made that cause dowsers to mistrust their own dowsing?

The following 5 dowsing mistakes, in order from #5 to #1, all contribute to doubt and mistrust about your dowsing response. If you can fix these 5 common errors, you will become a confident,  more accurate dowser.

Top Dowsing Mistakes #5: Being attached to the answers.

When you dowse a question, you are waiting for an answer, and if you have an attachment to a particular answer, or you feel that one answer is good and the other bad, or you are afraid of being ‘wrong' with your dowsing, your accuracy will crash and burn.

No one can teach you how to be detached. Either you are, or you aren't. The first step is never dowse any question that you know you care so much about that there is a ‘right' and a ‘wrong' answer. If you fear hearing the answer, you shouldn't be dowsing it.

Practice your dowsing on things that interest you, but that are not life and death. Learn to recognize how you feel when you are resisting hearing the truth. You may feel tension in your body or you might hold your breath. (You might even hear a little voice in your head making fearful comments.)

See how it feels when you dowse about something you are merely curious about, and compare that to when you try to dowse a serious question. Cultivate a curious attitude whenever you dowse, and know that whatever the truth is will help you in the long run. If you find yourself resisting the answer, don't dowse. Practice on things that you are able to approach with curiosity alone.

Top Dowsing Mistakes #4: Lack of experience.

Sounds obvious, but if you don't dowse, you don't get confident. Lack of practice leads to mistrust when you dowse. Often, people who don't practice only turn to dowsing when they have a serious question they need answered. Unfortunately, dowsing that way is like going to play a concert without practicing at all. If you really want to be able to use dowsing when it counts, you must practice dowsing. And that means starting with small subjects and working up to bigger ones.

Give yourself the chance to learn and grow in your dowsing. Don't expect that you either are great at dowsing or not. Very few people are prodigies. Most have to practice. Enjoy the process of becoming the best dowser you can be. We have found that almost anyone can become an excellent dowser if they do the right things.

Top Dowsing Mistakes #3: Not being aware of the common pitfalls, and not knowing how to remedy them.

All skills have pitfalls. Unfortunately, most dowsers are given the impression that they can dowse just by learning to get a yes/no response with a pendulum or other dowsing tool. Then they go off and dowse, not knowing anything about proper technique or the traps that await them. Even basic dowsing courses rarely touch on important aspects of technique. They tend to focus on the use of the tools, but that is by far the smallest part of learning to be a dowser.

One of the most common dowsing pitfalls that can mess up your dowsing is polarity reversal. The body has polarity, a north and south pole. When those poles get reversed, everything becomes backwards. Symptoms of polarity reversal include feeling prickly and not wanting to be touched; switching left and right; being clumsy with words or with your body; getting things backwards.

A good way to test your polarity is to ask a clear question to which you know the answer. We find that using your birthplace in this lifetime is usually a good polarity question, unless you don't know your birthplace or have some strong negative emotions about your birth. Make a question or statement about your birthplace, such as, “I was born in _____________in this lifetime.” The answer should be ‘yes' if you fill the blank with your birthplace. Retest by inserting a place you were not born, and you should get a ‘no'. What if you got the ‘wrong' answer when you dowsed? Your polarity is reversed.

Polarity can reverse for a number of reasons. The most common are dehydration, improper mineralization of the body; your own emotions and noxious environmental energies.

When your polarity is reversed, ‘yes' becomes ‘no' and vice versa. Nothing is more demoralizing to a dowser than to have his polarity reversed and NOT KNOW IT. Yet it is a common problem.

Make sure you drink plenty of pure water. Get your vitamins and minerals. Water and mineral frequencies are ‘burned up' in intuitive and energy work.

Do not dowse about anything you have strong emotions about, as it can reverse your polarity.

And be aware that if you are in a zone of noxious energies, your polarity can reverse.

Fixing polarity is usually pretty easy. For most people, doing the ‘thymus thump' works fine. Just make a fist with either hand and tap your sternum (breastbone) several times gently while intending to restore your polarity to right and perfect function. Retest your question and see if the answer to your question about where you were born is now correct.

If you cannot fix your polarity no matter how hard you try, by drinking water, moving to a different location or doing the thymus thump, you can still dowse. Just keep in mind that yes is no, and no is yes.

Chronic polarity reversal can be remedied, so if you find that even when dowsing simple questions, your polarity is often reversed, it would be worthwhile to discover the cause and do your best to balance your polarity. Start with things like hydration and mineralization and work your way through to space clearing if things don't become balanced. Or seek outside assistance from someone familiar with this condition and how to balance it.

Top Dowsing Mistakes #2: Not formulating a good dowsing question.

It may seem obvious to say that your dowsing answers are only as good as your questions. As with computers, it's garbage in, garbage out. Therefore, it makes sense to spend appropriate time crafting a specific question that will give you accurate answers. But that takes time, effort and practice. Most courses don't spend a lot of time teaching you how to create good dowsing questions. Furthermore, even if you have taken a course that did cover this important topic, if you are right-brain dominant, you are going to feel like launching right into the dowsing rather than doing a left-brain thing like making up a good question.

We like to tell our students that there are no wrong dowsing answers. Often, there are inappropriate or poorly worded questions that mislead the dowser with answers that do not address his or her true question. The answer you get is the answer to the question you asked. And most of the time, it is an accurate answer for that question, or as accurate an answer as you can get for that question.

Good dowsing questions are usually long, detailed and very specific, because they have to be in order to include all the critical factors of a good question: why, when, what, how, where and who. Often, if you leave one of these factors out of the question, your answer will not be accurate.

Another common problem is the use of vague words that have emotional meaning or multiple connotations, which makes the question unanswerable. ‘Good', ‘for my highest good' and ‘best' are often used in dowsing questions, but if you ask three people what those words mean, you will often get three different answers. Avoid the use of judgmental and trite phrases.

Here's an example: before you dowse whether to commit to the person you are currently in love with, sit down and use your left brain to make a list of the aspects of a committed relationship that are important to you, that will contribute to your happiness. Everyone is different. But include everything from health to finances. Put in values like honesty, open communication and fidelity if they are important to you. Make sure your list includes every aspect of a committed relationship that matters to you.

Next, you can then begin to formulate your question. List the who, what, where, when, how and why as appropriate. For ‘who', that's easy. It's the name of your lover. The ‘what' is your definition of a committed relationship. If your question seems to get too long, substitute a word or phrase for that complete definition of your perfect relationship after intending that the two are now equal for dowsing purposes. Be specific. The ‘where' might actually matter in some cases, so include it if you think it is appropriate to your relationship. ‘When' is vital. The phrase ‘at this time' is a common on in many dowsing questions, as you do need to specify a time for most things. ‘How' and ‘why' are also useful in many dowsing questions.  In this case, the ‘how' may refer to the type of committed relationship, while the ‘why' could refer to the maximum long-term happiness you can experience, or perhaps attaining your spiritual goals by having a life partner who is in alignment with them.

Do not be afraid of long dowsing questions. You may want to write them down at first, so you don't have to remember them. You want to have them clear and in your head, but you don't want to only be focused on the question itself. The goal is to allow this to become easier for you, so that what you are focusing on is not the tool or the question, but that moment between question and answer, the essence of dowsing.

Top Dowsing Mistakes #1: Thinking that just taking a basic dowsing class is enough training to become an accurate dowser.

Or an even bigger mistake, thinking that a friend showing you how to use a dowsing tool is enough to make you a good dowser. Learning to use a dowsing tool, which is the focus of most basic courses, is not complete training. Going to a single course is just the beginning of your dowsing training. Reading and attending conferences and meetings will help you a lot. But I did all of those things, and I soon ran out of ways to improve my dowsing. Nigel learned dowsing in the U.K., and he also found it hard to get the training he wanted.

Luckily, training opportunities are becoming more abundant, affordable and convenient. As dowsing becomes more popular, there are more people offering courses that will show you techniques and applications that can guarantee your dowsing will be as reliable and accurate as you want it to be. You wouldn't take one piano lesson and think that was enough to make you a good pianist. Dowsing is a skill, and like all skills, training will improve performance. Learn from the masters and become the best dowser you can be.

What have been your biggest problems to overcome in dowsing? And, how did you overcome them? Post your story in the comments section below.